And I will follow my own choices... Do you?

Each parent raise his daughter like a princess, but are they passing on the correct information to them?

From childhood, they are being groomed with fancy dresses and accessories but are they investing their time to make them equal like a boy?

They are being trained to make a round chapatti, make a perfect meal, to maintain a clean house, to help older ones, by not disturbing their studies, but are we actually grooming our boys to take responsibilities like a girl?

A girl is being told that after marriage, her in laws home is her home, but what about their own house where she has sent last 25 years, from the day she has born?

Why girl is always considered as a weaker entity than a boy, no matter whatever she has achieved throughout her academics and profession?

People have got their own perspective to answer this above question, and I am pretty sure that someone can satisfy me with their answers, but I say “No” to all those satisfied answers because I want to stand for my own choice of answer.

Marriage = Gender Inequality.

1) The Red Lehenga

I was being wrapped with my heavy red lehenga and all heavy jewelry, of course it was my D-day and we all have a dream of it, waiting for a man coming like a Knight in a shining Armor.

Getting into a very traditional marriage, you follow the tradition also, maybe it’s by choice, force, or the mindset through which we have all grown up but nobody ever said according to Hindu mythology the color Red stands for prosperity and fertility, for Groom is absolutely any choice of their color. Gender Inequality,  Dear society we can always talk on the actual facts and not the forced customs and tradition.

2) The Heena(Mehndi)

Applying Heena(Mehndi) on your palms till elbow and then on your feet is mandatory because we all have been guided to perceive this perception, but nobody told us that applying Heena can prevent stress during weddings as it cools the body and keeps the nerves from becoming tense.

3) Pre-wedding proceedings

She is made to sit in a mandap with all the age-old females surrounding, decorating her with marriage material stuff, performing special rituals before proceeding for wedding vows, all with their choice, no one ask a girl if she is comfortable or not, if not she has to adjust, Why? Is only a girl is getting married? While on the other end, groom sitting with his friends enjoying, and she performing pre-wedding rituals- Gender Inequality, right?

4) Wearing Heavy Chooda

She is being made to wear chooda, which becomes more uncomfortable, feels like a handcuff, a guy would be wearing just a watch in his hands, which he can remove anytime, while she has to wear chooda for atleast a month which creates a lot of difficulties while sleeping, bathing, and the worst part of this it’s annoying noise which always creates a hurdle while you are having some private moment and your entire family can hear what’s been cooking inside the room! 

Wait it doesn’t end here, after removing chooda, its compulsory for a bride to wear bangles? Why? Just to show the society that you are now a married woman! Kuddos to irrelevant thought, teach us that wearing bangles creates a fiction with the wrist which increases the blood circulation level and the electricity passing out through other skin is again reverted to one’s own body because of the ring-shaped bangles (Source: Science)

So please stop telling us that it’s the sign of being married

5) Wearing Bindi on your forehead.

After marriage, you cannot have a nudge forehead, because that emphasis on the good health of your husband. Okay, I agree but then who would emphasis on the good health of a wife? Or is it only husband is important and not the wife? Gender Inequality again.

Please teach us bindi or kumkum dot retains the energy of the body.

6) Wearing toe rings.

According to Hindu mythology every married woman has to wear toe rings(Bichiya) in her second toe, which ensures the longevity of your Husband’s age, then no matter how badly you get hurt of it or how badly it’s paining, you cannot remove it for a single second.

Why is it like everyone caring for men longevity, ain’t women long life not important? Gender Inequality

Please get out of such orthodox though, and give a married girl a state of comfort, because it hurts her in those Nike shoes. She being a working lady is not allowed to enter the office with an open toe flip flops.

Indian women normally wear toe rings on the second toe. A particular nerve from this connects the uterus and passes to heart. Thus, a toe ring on this toe strengthens the uterus, keeping it healthy by regulating the blood flow to it. Moreover, a woman’s menstrual cycle is said to be regularized. (Source: Science)

7) Wearing Vermillion (Wearing Sindoor)

Sindoor is prepared by mixing turmeric, lime and the metal mercury. Due to its intrinsic properties, mercury controls blood pressure and activates sexual drive. Thus, sindoor should be applied right up to the pituitary gland where all our feelings are centered (Source: Science)

Due to this reason, a girl is not allowed to put on sindoor and a widow too is not allowed.

Stop telling us that applying sindor will make our husband to live a long healthy life, because before marriage also he was living his own life and after marriage also he would be continuing the same, their heartbeats don’t have to do with woman wearing sindoor for him. – Gender Inequality.

                                            

                                              It doesn’t end here. There are so many things a woman is forced to do after marriage. She is forced to live on other’s opinion while she is much more independent of what other’s think. Like a boy is raised a girl too is raised to fight with all the hurdles coming into her life, so please let her live.

It’s not necessary that only a girl is responsible to show her identity of being married, ask boys to do it, then we girls would love to do it all.

Note: I am not against all this ritual, I am just against the inequality practiced in our society.    

We all are being guided into a wrong direction and allowing patriarchy to get a lead, I just want it to be equal, of both Mother and Father.

What you all ask for, separating a girl from her parents is the biggest sacrifice she is making, don’t ask for much, be a man enough to support her, be a man enough to celebrate her success, and see what a wonderful life she gives to you and your family.

Girls not have to put on all this stuff just to show the world that she is related to some man.

Love between two people don’t need any identity or proof, they know they are related so the world doesn’t have to worry.

Allow a girl to wear their own choices because she was raised as a princess and not as a puppet to follow others opinions,

And I will follow my own choices... Do you?